But there are times, in the midst of all those chemicals and feelings, that we might confuse amazing sex with actual love and jump into a relationship with someone sooner than we should. Orgasm blinders are real, guys. There could be a real, scientific reason that a woman is feeling super close to her partner after sex — especially amazing sex. The sex might always be great, but your actual relationship with the person might be hot and cold. If your relationship is more about making up until you get to the good sex part, it might not exactly be love. As in, can you envision them fitting naturally into your life somewhere besides under your covers?

Like all things, no one wants to get into a rut, and incorporating new techniques and tricks is part of what keeps sex so refreshing and intimate. Sure, sex has been around forever , and the never-ending curiosity gap around it is part of what makes it such a dynamic part of our lives. Are we all doing it? If so, how often? Are we doing it correctly? What else is there to try?

And I aim to please! So, this time, I reached out to my five most eloquent, self-aware male friends who are all non-writers and asked them to describe what amazing sex felt like for them, in their own words. What does sex feel like for men?

Hi, yes, your daily PSA: Stop catering to men's needs as if yours don't matter. Especially in the bedroom. As women channeling major Lizzo energy, it's just as important to seek your own pleasure as it is your partners. We good?