If you're trying to be better in bed, there are a few things worth knowing right away: First, the very act of trying puts you well ahead of the curve, says Justin Lehmiller, Ph. Selfish lovers, in other words, don't spend much time dwelling on how they can improve between the sheets. So long as you're not just looking for an ego boost, your desire to be more attentive shows that you're conscientious and that you put the needs of your partner on the same level as your own. That said, everybody's needs are different, Lehmiller adds. Being open about your desires is truly the only way to give your partner what they want.

When looking back on your sexual history, there's probably one or two experiences or partners that stick out among the rest in your memory. Maybe it was your first time ever, your most recent tryst, or that one-night stand you can't forget. Either way, it can be really satisfying to reminisce about an uplifting intimate experience that was particularly memorable. Thinking back on those experiences is not only fun, but it can also be interesting to notice what's had a hand in shaping your current sexual identity and preferences.

She got on top, pinned my arms down, and then proceeded to use me to get herself off. I could understand that sounding selfish, but being used as an object for her sexual pleasure was absolutely awesome. We had traveled there to get a FL marriage license because we were getting married in Key West later in the month.

It was just intensely loving- we were in missionary and kept eye contact the entire time. I think I realised then and there that this guy is the one. This obviously came with its perks as he had access to the boats whenever he wanted. After a night of getting drunk in his cabin, he suggested we take a ride and took me into the middle of the lake at 3am.